{"id":2747,"date":"2019-09-06T03:00:17","date_gmt":"2019-09-06T08:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/?p=2747"},"modified":"2019-09-03T11:06:25","modified_gmt":"2019-09-03T16:06:25","slug":"family-values","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/family-values\/","title":{"rendered":"Family Values"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Promote What You Stand For?<\/span><\/h2>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Marketing Campaign For Your Life &#8211; Part 4<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How we plan to promote what and who we are?<br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are your values?\u00a0 Do you have a written set of values to refer to?\u00a0 How will you explain to your children, your spouse, your friends, what you stand for?\u00a0 Values are vital. They give you and your family the boundaries and limits in which you can operate.\u00a0 Without values you will fall for anything and everything will get you off course.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing that we can\u2019t live the successful life we choose without having values, we use our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nolongercommon.com<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> five growth areas to define our family\u2019s values in more detail.\u00a0 In other words, we have identified five key areas we wish to set boundaries, limits, and standards for our family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #808080;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2748 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=400%2C400&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=400%2C400&amp;ssl=1 400w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/20190906-TIF-SM-Family-Values.png?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>The Thought or Concept:<\/span><br \/>\n<\/span><strong>Set and document your family\u2019s values.<\/strong><b><br \/>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In order to set clear expectations for your family\u2019s identity, you need to create a set of values.\u00a0 What does your family stand for? Everyone can tell you what they don\u2019t stand for or stand against when situations occur, but what standards have you documented that states here\u2019s what we believe and value?\u00a0 I\u2019ve heard our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/how-many-pastors-can-you-have\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">local church pastor<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> say that most churches are good at telling you what they are against, but very few say what they\u2019re in favor of.\u00a0 Today we want to help you begin the process of drafting your own list of family or individual values.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #808080;\">The Practice:<\/span><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you take a look at our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/product\/the-family-plan\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family plan<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, here are the values we\u2019ve documented.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Our Family\u2019s Motto.<\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our family\u2019s motto is this&#8230; \u201cIf not us, then who&#8230;\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We believe every family could use a motto.\u00a0 This one gives us a reason to do what we do.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, if we don\u2019t pray for our friends, then who will?\u00a0 If not us, then who?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we don\u2019t support our family, then who will?\u00a0 If not us, then who?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we don\u2019t represent Jesus, then who will?\u00a0 If not us, then who?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You see \u201c<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/the-uncommon-person\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">where family values are strong peer pressure is weak and where family values are weak, peer pressure is strong.<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Our Family Values<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Growth Area 1 &#8211; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/category\/nlc-today\/church-religion\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our Spirituality<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 This section has to do with our church and our religious values.\u00a0 Here are the values we do our best to live by and I hope they will stimulate your thinking in drafting your own.<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our church must teach from the Bible, holding it as the final authority.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our church must demonstrate the characteristics as outlined in the Bible. If the things our church is doing doesn&#8217;t match what the Bible says we have an issue with the church.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our beliefs are based solely on the Word of God and our purpose as given to us by God, Himself.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe that God is our source..<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We have chosen to put God in first place.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe that we are The Church.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We are members of one active local church, but have many pastors &#8211; gifts from God.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\n<p><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Growth Area 2- <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/category\/nlc-today\/home-personal-education\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our Life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 This section provides the values we hold for our home, education, and personal lives.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our home has been made &#8220;holy&#8221;, like no one else&#8217;s home because of the values we uphold.\u00a0 Use these examples to create your own values for your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We use our home for what God instructs (i.e. Small Groups, Counseling, Platform Building, Family-house, etc.)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We make studying The Word and prayer our top priority.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We practice having a Biblical definition to all that we do. &#8220;Turn my eyes from worthless things, and give me life through your word.&#8221; (Psalms 119:37 NLT)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We pay our bills using the principle of the miracle feeding of the five thousand.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe that we can be happy every day with no exceptions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We focus on getting the right amount of sleep\/rest daily. Not too much and not too little. Our bodies depend on this time to heal and to grow. God gives rest to those He loves.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We see everyone we encounter as they can be, not as they are. Focusing only on the good in people. Never seeing the bad.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We choose to speak life-filled words and not words of death.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We are determined to live by margin in every area of our lives. We have margin in&#8230;<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our finances<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our time together before going off to work each day.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our activities<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our time<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our responsibilities<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our schedules<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\n<p><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Growth Area 3 &#8211; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/category\/nlc-today\/recreation-society-government\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our Interactions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 This section identifies the values we intend to keep during our recreation time.\u00a0 When we&#8217;re working, we have committed ourselves to upholding these downtime values.<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We plan to celebrate our anniversary with an annual retreat. Our retreat is designed to realign our committed relationship with each other.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe in our vows to each other which state before the fall of man &#8211; Adam &#8211; God created us to be one flesh. When Pamela looks in the mirror, it&#8217;s my image that she sees and when I look into the mirror it&#8217;s her image I see.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe that our relationship modeled before others should represent the marital relationship that God intended from the beginning.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\n<p><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Growth Area 4 &#8211; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/category\/nlc-today\/relationships-family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our Relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 This section highlights the values we hold for all other relationships that exist in our world.\u00a0 Maybe you can use these to set a few values your family upholds for its important relationships.<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We are obligated to pray for our friends and live by this motto: &#8220;if not us then who&#8230;&#8221;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our children&#8217;s friends are our friends.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We are selective in the friendships we have.\u00a0 We ask God to send us friends who can sharpen us for our purpose.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">Our family may have issues, but they are ours and we make a 100% commitment to the relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe we are responsible for training our children and using them as arrows in the hands of mighty warriors.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\n<p><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Growth Area 5 &#8211; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/category\/nlc-today\/work-business-career\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our Work<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 This section is last because it should be last, our work supports all the other areas, but we must set values in this area so that it has the right priority in light of the others.\u00a0 Use these examples to make sure you have values set around how your family does its work.<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We pray over our employers, coworkers, and those to whom we report.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We ask God to bless our places of employment.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We use our experiences to be model employees.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We take breaks from work so that our performance is maximized during our work hours.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #0000ff;\">We believe God&#8217;s desire is for us not to work until the age of 65 and then to retire.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today is Friday!<br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;ve just shared with your one of the key components to how our family markets itself.\u00a0 With these values each person has something to fall back on within our 5 life growth areas.\u00a0 These values have served as a foundation upon which we can all build lives worth promoting. Take a moment to create a few values for your family.\u00a0 In the long run (years down the road) you&#8217;ll truly be glad you do.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How about sharing one of your values with me below or via social media?\u00a0 I&#8217;d like to see what you come up with. Until next Friday, share this message with as many of your friends as possible and thanks for visiting <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kerry A. 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