{"id":2880,"date":"2019-11-08T03:00:33","date_gmt":"2019-11-08T09:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/?p=2880"},"modified":"2024-03-04T15:30:14","modified_gmt":"2024-03-04T21:30:14","slug":"help-others-helps-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/help-others-helps-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping Others Helps Me"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting Help By Giving Help<\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living A Life of Focus \u2013 Part 8<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building and helping others helps me.\u00a0 The best way to help yourself starts with helping others.\u00a0 You want to ensure you\u2019re planting a huge field of helping others so that you will reap a bountiful harvest of the help you need to produce in your life.\u00a0 Why would you think someone would desire to help you when you never help someone else? Whatever you sow is the only thing you can reap? Whatever you give is the only thing you receive?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #808080;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2881 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=400%2C400&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=400%2C400&amp;ssl=1 400w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/20191108-TIF-SM-Helping-Others-Helps-Me.png?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>The Thought or Concept:<br \/>\n<\/span><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cWhen I help get what they want, they will help me get what I want.\u201d &#8211; Zig Ziggler<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This focus statement taught us that selfishness, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nolongercommon.com\/the-opposite-of-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the opposite of love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, helps us get nowhere fast.\u00a0 Ordinary people are the most selfish of people.\u00a0 They desire the very things they are unwilling to give and it\u2019s this very attitude that\u2019s working against them to keep it that way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #808080;\">The Practice:<br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if helping others is key, here\u2019s what I decided to do to get it right:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Change my thinking towards others first<\/strong><b>.<\/b><b><br \/>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I never considered that my goals in life should have people as recipients.\u00a0 Let me give you an example. When Steve Jobs created the iMac, he wasn\u2019t creating it just so that he could use it.\u00a0 He created it so that people like you and me could use it. So his first thought had to be how can his dream to make a computer help others first, not himself.\u00a0 In the same way, you must think of how your dream can help others first before your dreams can ever help you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Use my gifts to serve others so that it\u2019s genuine.<\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cThe gift is greater than the person.\u201d &#8211; John C. Maxwell<\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">John Maxwell said something here.\u00a0 Your gift (since it came from God) is always bigger than the person.\u00a0 The person could be a mess of a person, but the gift can change the world.\u00a0 Have you ever met a person like that; someone so gifted yet comes off as less of a person?\u00a0 Think of all those you know who are famous for doing great things, but when you think about the individual they too tend to have issues that don\u2019t match the size of their gifting.\u00a0 The point is this, your gift is bigger than you, therefore it\u2019s meant to serve someone other than you. Treat it this way.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Encourage others to do the same and not make the same mistake.<\/strong><b><br \/>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you alter your thinking to go beyond what\u2019s normal by helping others, you&#8217;ll soon experience others beginning to help you.\u00a0 It serves no one, it helps no one, if you don\u2019t share it with those you can, your world. Encourage someone else to take this leap to use everything they have, you have, I have, to help someone else.\u00a0 BTW &#8211; this too is helping others and will cause help to come back at you.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I knew I could use all the help I could get so I went after obtaining help only to find out I wasn\u2019t getting any.\u00a0 Getting help from others has a prerequisite. That prerequisite is to help people first. This goes against normal thinking and it\u2019s the very type of thinking that helps produce the results that normal people don\u2019t have.\u00a0 If you want uncommon results you have to give up taking the normal approach.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today is Friday!<br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After spending a year with this focus statement (and I still hold on to it), it continues to serve us well.\u00a0 In fact, our eyes have gotten off our need to have help but rather to serve others which has brought us unexpected help.\u00a0 Today we have a dedicated team helping us do what we do. What will you do with this focus statement or will you just continue down the common path of wishing you had some help?\u00a0 Helping others helps me and helping others will help you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Share this focus statement with someone you know could use a little help today.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"su-note\"  style=\"border-color:#c7ced4;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note-inner su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\" style=\"background-color:#E1E8EE;border-color:#ffffff;color:#333333;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note\"  style=\"border-color:#e5e5e5;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note-inner su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\" style=\"background-color:#FFFFFF;border-color:#ffffff;color:#000000;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/familyplan\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Family Plan Binder<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kerryaclark.com\/blog\/familyplan\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1025\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kerryaclark.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Family-Plan-Cover-e1493399146525.png?resize=115%2C149\" alt=\"\" width=\"115\" height=\"149\" \/><\/a> is available now! <p><\/p>\nOur team has worked very hard putting it together. 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