The Purpose of Sex is to Create a Gripping Attachment
What Was Sex Meant to Be? – Part 1
In the previous section, we discussed how sex is the ultimate relationship adhesive and, if not handled properly, will enslave us to someone to whom we’d instead not be bonded. Continuing from that ideology, I would like to begin discussing the point of sex. The reason I need to keep in mind the goal and purpose of this teaching is because I want to have a meaningful conversation with my 16-year-old daughter about sex, a father-daughter discussion of sorts. I need to be the one to provide guidance and support on this topic rather than leaving it to someone else. Therefore, let’s continue.
I’ve been reflecting on who should guide you in understanding sex. If we don’t, then who will? By not discussing it, who am I allowing to shape your knowledge? By not speaking about it, I indirectly allow others to take on this role. I firmly believe that the traditional methods of learning about sex are inadequate. To be clear, the normal way to learn about sex is no good. Teaching sex through conventional means has proven to be ineffective. If you think your peers can provide the information, think again. Everyone we know has relied on the same misguided approach. That’s why I am determined to provide you with the knowledge I never received.
You need to know the purpose of sex. It’s crucial for you to comprehend that sex serves a purpose beyond having babies. I thought I’d test the waters with that statement. I want to introduce this concept to you. When we lack an understanding of the true purpose of something, it leads to misuse, misunderstanding, and abuse, as I’ve mentioned earlier.
Let me rephrase this: A majority (51% or more) of people do not have a clear understanding of the true purpose of sex. They don’t know. Our individual beliefs and narratives may differ, but if we were educated about this topic properly, many of the issues surrounding sex today could have been avoided.
A Gripping Attachment
Recall sex is meant to create a bond. When I look into her eyes and say this, I want her to understand what sex is and the purpose of it truly. Do you know who “the her” is? My daughter.
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact.” [1]
Sex goes beyond the obvious, such as reproduction or procreation. Sex is more than the mechanism for having children. It does something more, something God intended. It creates a bond, a hold on a couple. The reason why that was the case, still is the case, and should be the case is because what people have forgotten is that the idea and purpose of sex is to create a very strong bond, a gripping attachment that doesn’t let you go.
In the past, people would consummate their marriage, which means they would have sex to create this bond we’ve been mentioning. In older times, people valued and respected marriage in a way that they would wait to have sex until after they were married. This act was considered essential to complete the marital union and was typically the initial act following a marriage ceremony. Image that sex is the first act experienced once a couple gets married. How wonderful would that make the union? It would undoubtedly be said that these two are pretty special. They are disciplines, but more importantly, they would be unlike most. I say all of this because it is unheard of today, and I wanted to share this information with you in case you have not heard it before.
Question: What have you heard regarding sex and marriage?
[1] 1 Corinthians 6:16-20 MSG, biblegateway.com accessed October 1, 2024, https://www.bible.com/bible/97/1CO.6.16-20.MSG
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