Prepping the Ground for A Healthy Marriage
Putting It All Together – Part 2
In building a house, a blueprint of what you want it to look like is needed. Have you created the blueprint for one of the biggest and best moments of your life? While your wedding day is a big event, it doesn’t have to be your last or greatest event. It’s the first one you get to do together. Use your wedding ceremony as a framework to create future events that the two of you will put together. Your wedding or tying the knot, isn’t just a ceremony it’s a pattern for how you will do life.
Be confident in your decision or get confident.
I’m sure you have heard of people, or might even know some people, or have certainly seen those people who get what we call “cold feet.” They say it’s normal. If this is normal, let’s not start out with normal. So before the wedding day comes, get confident and be confident in the decision you’ve made. There’s no reason for you to have to wait until the day of your wedding ceremony to have cold feet. Put in the work before you get to that day. Do whatever it takes to have your mind made up before you get there. Now that’s uncommon. Let’s start out on the right foot.
Get around the right people.
“Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” 
Before you reach the day of your ceremony, make sure you eliminate or limit who can be in your company. Not everyone is for you, so you’ll need to ensure you stay close to those who are for you. It’s easy to let others get in your ear to create drama, that’s what normal people do. You’re not normal and what you’re about to do isn’t normal. Protect your day by protecting the days leading up to the day. Protect each other and protect the marriage you desire that could just be at stake if you allow others in it who wish you no good.
Go on a mental walkthrough of your big day.
Walk through the days of your big event. No matter how many days out you are from the big event, walk through the days by putting together a timeline. One month out we will… Two weeks out we will… Three days out, we will… Decide what needs to happen at each stage leading up to the event, so that your plan leaves margin and removes the stress that planning a wedding can bring. If you plan your wedding like everyone else, you will have the results that everyone else has.
Make a list of activities, actions items, and delegations needed to make this what you and your significant other have designed.
Don’t take it for granted that others want to be a part of your big day. You know the people who would like nothing better than to be involved in your big day. Let them. Make a list, have a strategy and execute your plans. Let me say that again, execute your plans, not your mama’s plans or your auntie’s plan. Execute your plan. You might not know this, but how you start greatly impacts how you end. Just like a wedding, your life will work best with a design the two of you plan on and execute your plan.
The purpose of this lesson is to begin your “wedding” before the wedding ceremony. This time is a heightened moment and you don’t want to simply use this moment for an event, but rather use this moment to build your lives together. It’s the perfect time to make adjustments in preparing for a life together as well as to prune whatever should be cut away.
It’s said that even God has to prune from time to time. Pruning is necessary for the plant to be healthy, the person to grow beyond their current level. This before-the-ceremony time is perfect for pruning so that you and your spouse will have a life couched for growth.
Question: what plans can you execute during the days leading up to the big event that will set you up for future growth?