How Do I Care For The Most Important People In My World
Caring For Our Main People – Part 1
Your people include your family, you (and your spouse) with your children. This is called your nuclear family. What plans do you have to care for your children? If you have young children, layout their future. Begin to help your children dream. If you have older children help them shape and accomplish their dreams so that you can be a guide. Give them a future to work with and don’t leave it up to chance. At least, they will have a place to start rather than no place at all. That’s what normal people have done and I’m certain you don’t want a normal existence for your children. You and your spouse have a huge responsibility to care for your nuclear family. Create family projects and take family vacations. Have a family that works hard and plays hard. Not one that works little and plays much. Nor one that works much and plays little. Discuss your family’s plans as a family so that your children feel apart of your life, your business. Therefore, their life, which is a part of your life, is your family business.
“Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master.
Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them.
Children, do what your parents tell you. This delights the Master no end.
Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits.” – bible.com/97/col.3.18-21.msg
Being people of faith.
I am advocating that if you’re people of faith, then be people of faith. If you’re not, then you’re not.
Being that my family are people of faith, we have a lot of stories that inspire our faith. I wish to use one such story to explain this category of the people we care for.
I’m going to use a Christian illustration. As you may know and have heard, Jesus had a group of twelve men who worked ministry with Him, His disciples. They were on His team; they were more than the folks He worked with or had to interact with at the office. They did life together. They spent a lot of time with Jesus, but within this group there were three who got to spend a little more time than the rest. They were able to see Jesus from behind the scenes, so to speak. Like any family, we have the large group which consists of siblings, parents, grand-parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws, and more. But what about the ones who live with you and interact with you daily? Who are the people who get to see you behind the scenes? Jesus had Peter, James, and John. They were like family, let’s just call them His main people or His nuclear-team.
For this first category of people, I want to talk about how to care for those closest to you. Your Peter, James, and John. For me, this is my wife, Pamela, and our daughter, Tamia. They are the ones who see me up close, personal, and behind the scenes. Now think about your main people, your nuclear family.
Side-note: our main people were larger a few years ago when all our children lived with us, but over time, they now have their own main people, their own nuclear families. Don’t be surprised when you main people change.
The Thought or Concept:
Your main people are those you do the most for and with. Those you care the most for. Your main people are those you do life (your business) with daily. There’s not one day that goes by without them impacting your life (your business), your decisions, and your habits. They are the ones who truly know who you are. So then, ask yourself this question, how do you care for those most important people in your world? What’s your plan? What’s the strategy for their well-being? How will you positively impact those people? Let’s discuss a few ways to get you started on this intentional journey of caring for your main people.
Over the course of next few episodes, I want to go into as much detail as possible regarding caring for your main people within what I call our five life growth areas:
- Caring for my people starting in Our Home.
Let’s call this the business of our home. What are you (we) doing in our home that enhances the lives of our closest people. I have a plan and you need a plan. So what’s in the plan? We’re going to share our plan for respecting each other, establishing the guidelines for our name sake, and the practices we have to be the people we desire to be. We’re not going to leave our lives, our business, to chance.
- Caring for my people in Our Work.
Regarding our work, I’ll first share what we do to care for our family then some things I wish we were doing and our plans to get there. I’d rather share with you what I wish we were doing to care for my people rather than what we are doing, but that might not be very helpful. So in order to get to the place that we wish we were requires a plan of action. What’s the point of the work we do if it’s not to better our main people?
- Caring for my people for Our Spirituality.
It’s easy to just live and allow life to happen; that’s normal. My people and the people reading this aren’t normal nor do we want to be. So we do stuff like form plans to impact the spirituality of those closest to us. What are we doing in our home to promote living a spiritual life? How are we being an example to our nuclear family so that they too are uncommon?
- Caring for my people in Our Interactions.
Interacting with others is something that happens whether we want to or not, so why not setup guidelines for your family. What do I mean by this? Over the next couple weeks, we’ll share things like how we interact with each other, how we interact with other family members, and the people we know. Being prepared for interacting with people builds confidence and a soft-skill that’s invaluable when accomplishing great things in life.
- Caring for my people in Our Relationships.
Over the last couple years, it’s become more important to make sure my family focuses on the importance of relationships. At the end of the day this is all that matters. So we’ll address issues we have in relationships, how my main people deal with it, and place priority on relationships going forward.
I didn’t think for a second that this section would have this much detail. But as I think about it, this might be the most important section of all. How do we care for those we care for? In light of what seems like Kobe Bryant’s untimely passing, this event has taught me how I wish to have the people around me, think of me when I’m gone. But that takes having a plan to do so. I want to have a greater impact on those in my life, especially my main people and I want the same for you.
Today is Friday!
It’s not as clear as I want it to be where this series is going, but that makes it good for you. Pamela and I are opening our door, so to speak, to share with you how we care for each other and Tamia. Normal people have no plans in this area, that’s why life doesn’t give them the best results. We’ve decided to do things a little differently and because we’ve been living like no one else, our lives have turned out like no one else’s. Let’s focus on caring for the most important people in the best way we can.
Until next week, thanks for visiting kerryAclark.com. Remember to share this with your people.