When You Need Help Putting Things Together?

If You Have Good People in Your Life, You Have Help When You Need It

Doing Battle When It’s Absolutely Necessary – Part 2

When you’ve decided to fight for the things worth fighting for (whatever that maybe) and it’s different for everyone, there are people you need around you to make sure of a couple things. You need people in your life to make sure what you’re fighting for is actually worth you fighting for. You see when we desire something bad enough, it’s sometimes hard to be reasonable and you need people around you to make certain you keep a level head. Next you need the right people to help you establish how you’re going to fight and evaluate the cost. Then you’ll need someone simply to make sure you stay focused, encouraged, and to offer a shoulder to cry on when needed. Even our best thought-out plans don’t always go as planned.

In this lesson, I want to talk about the people who can help put things together for you. Let’s start by giving you some bad news. The people who help you in life, those that you do life with, are people you’ve selected. Therefore when you select the wrong folks, life can go bad for you very quickly. However, when you’ve made a great selection, your life even on the worst of days won’t be as bad. The most important thing you can do is have good people around you.

I want to tell you about two people in my world who aided in putting things together when I decided to form my blended family. I hope you enjoy this, gain some insight, and find these stories helpful.

You need someone who will save you from you.
Who will save you from the most dangerous person in your world? By the way, the most dangerous person is you. That dangerous person was me. Allow me to take you back to the beginning, when I realized that I was faced with a new family scenario, forming a blended family. I had no clue what that picture looked like as I was too consumed by everyday life and its challenges. Any time you’re in the heat of things, your perspective is skewed. I wasn’t able to focus on the things I needed to focus, specifically our daughter Tamia.

I was sitting in my office one day and decided to call my wife, Pamela. I’d had enough of not being able to see our daughter who, at the time, was with her mother. In a short prayer about it, I received this impression. “There is a time for war and a time for peace.¹ Which time are you in?”  You must ask yourself this question. I’d decided then that I needed to take action, take back what had been taken from me. In essence, peace times were over and now it was time to do battle. At this time it was for our daughter, so I decided to go and take my rights back as a father. I wasn’t going to be an every other weekend day who had only a distant role in our daughter’s life. It was my wife, Pamela who was there to support this decision. It was also Pamela who made sure I knew what I was doing, as such a move could cause trouble for me. But do you know that some things are worth going through some trouble? If it had not been for her insight, listening ear, and encouragement I never would have acted. I could have potentially missed out on becoming the involved father that I am today. I could have missed out on the priceless relationship that I share with our daughter today. You must have the right people in your life, if you’re going to have a life worth living.

Let me camp there for a moment. Pamela could have said it’s not her fight or showed little interest or support. However, she is the right person. She is the one who taught me how to make the sacrifices necessary to make our family, a blended family, work. I’ve concluded that regardless of the situation one might find themselves in God is always present. He will rescue you when you call His name² He’ll give you just the right person you need. In my case He sent me Pamela, to rescue me. That’s why I often refer to her as my (small letter ‘s’) savior.

Above is just one example, had she not helped rescue me from me, on many occasions, my life wouldn’t be what it is today. Who’s that person that’s saving you from you?

You need someone outside your situation to go with you.
Anytime you’re in the midst of difficult situations a part of you might feel like you’re losing your mind. But what if you were truly losing your mind, how would you know? Being alone and doing life alone can be so dangerous.

This is a situation where your closest and most trusted friend comes in. I recall a time where my closest friend and I were both in the midst of separate troubling situations. We’d sit in the car many Saturday mornings where we’d meet and basically take turns crying on each other’s shoulders. We had no idea what to do, but as I gave him my scenario, he’d make sure I was going down a path that wouldn’t lead me to total destruction because at that time, we had no idea of who we could trust. I’d then do the same for him. 

In the case of a blended family, this trusted friend knew one thing, I didn’t have many options and the path I decided to take was the best one to ensure the best future for my family and for me. You must have a friend who will carry you when you are unable to carry yourself. 

Today is Friday!
In concluding this lesson, let’s summarize the key takeaways.

• Takeaway 1: when you have no other alternative, you need not go at it alone.
• Takeaway 2: when you’re going through tough times, you need someone who can rescue you from you.
• Takeaway 3: you never want to go through tough times and make the toughest decisions without help.

In order to make the best out of fighting for the life of your family, you need people who can help you put things together.

Question: who do you need in your life to help you make the best decisions out of the choices you have available?

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Reference 1: Ecclesiastes 3:8 NLT, Bible.com, accessed December 9,
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/ECC.3.8.NLT

Reference 2: Romans 10:13 NLT, Bible.com, accessed December 10,
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/ROM.10.13.NLT

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